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There are times when I stop and re-evaluate why we’re doing this and, more to the point, how we’re doing this. When it’s 100 degrees and everyone’s cranky and hot and I am reminded that air conditioning does in fact exist, for instance. (Truth be told, I think air conditioning makes dealing with the heat worse but I am not going to complain about the relief it lends when I step into the frigid 70 degree grocery store.)

Why we don’t have air conditioning is about as complex as motherhood, which I’ll get to in a bit. The short story is that air conditioning takes a lot of energy and we don’t have the solar system, grid power, or cold hard cash to make it work. The long story is that we don’t think it is a priority amongst the many other things we find more important to invest in.

So, it’s not that we deliberately avoid it because we find something wrong with it. We have just decided it’s not a priority. And we can live without it, it just makes a few months out of the year a bit difficult and most definitely unproductive. We are exploring more sustainable cooling options, but that is a post for another day.

So, we live with the consequences of our choices and honestly, (I can’t believe I’m about to say this) living in this heat is getting easier.

There are other “consequences” or results of the path we’ve chosen. We homeschool, work from home, and try to focus most of our productivity at home and so we’re all here all the time.

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This is a huge blessing and one that I try not to take for granted. But that also means we spend a ton of time together. I’d like to tell you that I’m impervious to the constant noise, questions, and needs of four of my favorite little people. I’d like to tell you that I smile constantly and have patience 100% of the time and speak with nothing but sweetness toward my children and husband all day long.

I’d also like to not tell big fat lies on the internet, so I’ll just admit right now that none of those things are true.

Here’s what I do know: I am not a great Mom. Some women are naturals with newborns and teenagers and everything in between and you witness this beautiful picture of a woman who nurtures her children with grace and patience, as if it came naturally.

That’s not me.

I have never in my eight years of motherhood felt that I had this. Not when all I had was one little man. Not when I had running water and electricity and that giant white helper called a washing machine. Not when we had walls or bedrooms or I talked to my husband about something other than the children and the homestead.

No matter how many conveniences I’ve had and no matter how seemingly easy my life has felt, pretty much everyday has been an absolute failure on my end. The days I spoke too harshly. The days I didn’t have enough patience. The days my meals flopped or burned or didn’t even get cooked. The times my children wore the past three days worth of meals all down the front of their shirts. That time I got into the car, breathed a sigh of relief that we were all dressed, and then looked down to see me wearing slippers and one sock. The every single day someone somewhere has launched any and all clean socks into the stratosphere without notifying me that we even own a cannon.

(Seriously, where do my children put all of their socks?!)

Here’s what else I know: Despite my own failures, and constant need for prayer and patience, I love this job. I love the results of the decisions we’ve made and the lessons I’m learning through them. There are even moments, between the sock cannonballs and my lack of patience, that would make perfect blog fodder. They might even make me look confidently capable.

But what makes them so beautiful, what makes me stop and catch my breath and realize how blessed I am, is the juxtaposition of that moment with the raw reality of the every day.

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Two weeks ago, for instance. Ruthie cut three teeth and was miserable, which meant a lot of rocking and snuggling and fussing. I sat her down next to Abram one morning and his six years of wisdom told me “Ruth’s kind of fussy, huh Mama?“.

“Yep,” I said and breathed deeply as I mentally ran over my to-do list that had been hijacked by this sweet baby.

Then he looked right at her and said “Except, she’s beautiful.”

And I nodded… and I cried… because I’ve never had a job reward me so deeply while failing at it so miserably.

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We took a little break from being in the garden this week. We cut down the beans last week and have continued to bring in dried pods, but for some reason we just could not work up to getting back in there to plant the fall garden.

Looking at our forecast that might be for the better anyway. We’re expecting close to 100 this next week again and I’m thinking beets and carrots wouldn’t much appreciate that.

Instead, Stewart and the children started a bunch of greens – kale, cabbage, collards, lettuce, cilantro – and they’re beginning to sprout, deeply tucked away from the searing sun. We’ll direct seed a few more in the next few weeks, but this will give us a bit of a head start.

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As an aside, meet Bear. Well, Grandpa Bear is what Annie calls him because, of course, Grandpa gave him to her. He has seen a lot of dirt and mud and most likely “chichee poo” as he is dragged from place to place.

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Instead of gardening these past two weeks, there has been much to do in the new cabin as we ready for fall and winter. Last week we painted, something everyone enjoyed getting in on. Having walls that are not plywood orange has felt like a down right extravagance that I’m still coming to terms with. Bright, light, lovely white. There are splatters of paint on the floor, the kind you collect from little helpers, but those toddler footprints in white add my favorite kind of decorative touch.

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I believe I’ve heard something about not wanting to live in the space you’re renovating. Well, we’re kind of used to inconvenient living situations at this point. However, when the project is happening right in the doorway to your living space things do get a little tricky.

And so we bounce back and forth, in-and-out, for baby girl naps and night times and Daddy-helping. It’s the best kind of chaos.

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We’re putting the wood stove fairly close to the front door for easy access to hauled wood and all. Having found a good deal on tile at the restore center, we decided to put it down beneath the wood stove and right in front of the door for muddy shoe removal.

As usual it seems there are a lot of things that need doing all at once – planting the fall garden, readying the cabin for the wood stove, harvesting all of those beans. And of course, the day-to-day business of balancing self-employment with caring for these little helpers of ours.

But golly, if you know of a cuter work crew then I’d be in for a surprise.

Happy weekend, friends!